Dear Nita Landry M.D, Travis Stork M.D. & Andrew Ordon M.D., The Doctors
You don’t know me and from your episode, Do you suffer from ‘Period Rage’?, my understanding is that you don’t know anything about PMDD. I never in my journey to bring awareness to PMDD, did I imagine I would have to explain ‘Period Rage’ to a Medical Professionals with the ability to provide information and knowledge to the masses. Yes, I do have to explain it to medical professionals, psychologist, and non-suffers. But never to professionals that should know the topic, they are presenting on National Television for millions of people and possible PMDD suffers.
Here is the thing, I first heard about this particular episode from the women from my support group. You know the ones with ‘Period Rage’! When I saw the clip, I was so embarrassed, not for me by the way, but for all of you, the behavior of to male medical professionals joking about a women’s disorder was completely inappropriate. Personally, I was hurt, offended, and outraged by the lack of a real conversation on a life or death illness. To top it off when Dr. Landry, attempted to speak and get the conversation started she was completely derailed by sexes offensive jokes. See Clip
I decided to tweet my response to The Doctors, on the segment to express my disappointment. Additionally, when one of my fellow ‘Period Rage’ Sisters, made a change.org petition I signed it hoping that it will bring more awareness to what you call ‘Period Rage.’ After that, I had no intention of addressing it on my blog; I was going to let go and Let God!
Till today, when on one of my ‘Period Rage’ support groups, a fellow, ‘Period Rage’ sister bravely posted her email to The Doctors. What struck me about her email was when she mentioned that one of the moderators from our support group had lost her fight with ‘Period Rage.’
A life! A human being! Was lost to what The Doctors, have chosen to name ‘Period Rage’! Guess what? Not just a woman, a beautiful, intelligent, kind, loving, young woman that had her whole life ahead of her. A woman that deserved to be loved and cherished every day of her life even on her ‘Period Rage.’ A woman that wanted nothing more than to fight for other women that suffer in silence because of their ‘Period Rage.’ In her own words, she wrote
” I want to inspire people. I want someone to say, “because of you, I refused to quit!”
Quit what you ask? Life… to quit on LIFE! Her ‘Period Rage’ ended but so did her life.
After that email, The Doctors segment became more than just another set of doctors that have no real life understanding of ‘Period Rage.’ It had become very personal to both me and the thousands of women worldwide that have what you call ‘Period Rage.’ Most importantly it disvalued the lives of the women we have lost to ‘Period Rage.’ Especially the life of one that fought so hard to bring awareness and lost her fight.
Now the truth, the medical term for “Period Rage” is Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder(PMDD). Most importantly here is the real name of ‘Period Rage,’ Woman, Daughter, Mother, Sister, Wife, Aunt, Grandmother, and Human. More specifically, I am ‘Period Rage’ my Name is Wilmari Eckerson, I am a daughter, sister, mother, wife and I am PMDD! If that is not clear to you what ‘Period Rage’ really is let me show you the Face of ‘Period Rage.’ That’s me right there, and you see that wonderful man next to me, that’s my husband, and He never runs from me, not even on my ‘Period Rage, ‘ and sometimes I am a real witch to him.
But if an everyday woman is not a clear vision of ‘Period Rage’ Let me give you another example. An example of a Face, some of your viewers, may recall, oh and wait for it… here is her Name, Gia Allemand! In case you don’t know she lost her life to ‘Period Rage’! Can’t remember here is the article oh and her Face!
So while all three of you were concerned for your safety because dating a woman with ‘Period Rage,’ could possibly “commit murder”, there was another 15% of women ending their lives.
Let me put it into perspective since you are medical professionals after all. If your show, The Doctors, has an audience in attendance of 300 women, and PMDD (‘Period Rage’) happens to approximately 5-10% of women that means that between 15-30 women in your audience have PMDD. Additionally, out of those 15-30 women, 15% percent of them will attempt and possibly succeed at committing suicide, which approximately 2-4 women (HUMAN BEINGS) that will lose their lives. Now since you just told those women that a guy should date them a few cycles to determine if they have “Period Rage’, before committing, you have just provided that 2-4 an example of their unworthiness.
But wait, there is more since you want to make sure that we don’t blame our actions on “Period Rage” the other 13-26 women will not seek the help they need so they don’t get labeled crazy! Or should I say ‘Period Rage Crazy’ or God forbid say it was due to their Menstrual Cycle (period)!
As a public television show that is ‘supposed’ to help people become informed about possible health issues that might impact their life, YOU FAILED! The Doctors failed to appropriately address and inform women of an illness that can possibly cause them enough harm that they would want to end their own lives! It was a disservice to every single woman on the face of the earth.
It’s ‘Period Rage’, PMDD time to speak now; I will keep bringing the awareness it should have rightfully received from The Doctors. The Doctors, the segment did nothing but make a hard illness to diagnose even harder to accept. Be assured that I will cultivate a community that will prove to the world and all three of you that we are more than ‘Period Rage’. A community that no longer will sit behind closed door ashamed of who they are, or their PMDD. We will own it, and we will put you to shame!
In my life, I never expected to have a condition that has no cure, nevertheless one that would alter my whole being for an extended period of time! Now I may not be a medical professional, at least not yet, and I may not have a hit Emmy winning show like The Doctors, but I have a voice! That voice will not sit in silence any longer. I will not let anyone shame my fellow PMDD Sisters or me.
I will rise, I will stand, I will proclaim, that I am ‘Period Rage”, I am PMDD & I am Proud of It!
To My Lost But Never Forgotten ‘Period Rage’ PMDD SISTER I Say “because of you, I refuse to quit!”
God Makes No Mistakes!
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