Me Too: It’s Not Just Women, #Mentoo

Me Too

“Me Too, Movement”- #Mentoo

On October 15, 2017, Alyssa Milano shared a tweet regarding sexual assault/abuse on women, as a response to the Harvey Weinstein controversy. Her request was simple that her followers tweet #metoo with their personal stories of sexual assault/abuse as to garner the magnitude of the problem consequently raising awareness.

I am not here to tell you about my #metoo story. I stand by and with every single woman that has had to endure sexual abuse/assault in their lives. I want them to know that you don’t have to live in shame any longer, you are worthy and beautiful, your testimony will only help others. You’re all Victors Not Victims!

Now what I want to say is that sexual assault/abuse or sexual crimes are not gender specific. It does not just happen to women, and it does not only happen to men. It happens to all humans at every stage and age in life.

It’s A Humanity Issue,

Me too is not women is #mentoo


If women sexual assault is under-reported can you imagine men’s rates of sexual abuse that goes under-reported as well? Men have the world always telling them they need to be strong, courageous, and victimless. Let me be clear I am not advocating Men that are Predators, I am speaking about boys, young men, and grown men that are sexually assaulted/abused.

In an article in the New York Times called, In Debate Over Military Sexual Assault, Men Are Overlooked Victims, it stated that:

“In its latest report on sexual assault, the Pentagon estimated that 26,000 service members experienced unwanted sexual contact in 2012, up from 19,000 in 2010. Of those cases, the Pentagon says, 53 percent involved attacks on men, mostly by other men.”

In another study done called Victims and perpetrators of male sexual assault, It reports the following :

“Male rape is clearly one of the easiest crimes to get away with in this country at the moment. The likelihood of being convicted is remote in the extreme.” (Commander Tom Williamson, Metropolitan Police UK [Verbal media quote], March 1995)

“Unfortunately, the prior lack of attention to male sexual assault crimes outside prison walls, coupled with problems of underreporting, have created a gap in the literature on statistics measuring the extent of this phenomena. Groth and Burgess (1980) suggest that, because of the scarcity of data on the victims of these crimes and a “combination of cultural, social, legal and psychological issues,” male sexual assault is one of “the most underaddressed issues in our society” (p. 810).

Asking only women to stand up and share their story, can minimize those men’s pain and shame,  who have also endured the same types of sexual assault/abuse. Men also share in the shame of being sexually assaulted,  also, they keep it a secret for fear that they won’t be seen as the men the world expects them to be.

For both men and women living in that kind of secrecy can lead to many longer-term emotional and relational issues. The #metoo movement should include all sexual assault/abuse Victors regardless of the gender #mentoo!

The Predator

A Sexual predator is not an explicit gendered either; it is not just men that commit sexual crimes it can also be women. In recent years many news articles have come regarding Females that have prayed on young victims, but sadly as a society, we refuse to believe that about women.

In the book “When Women Sexually Abuse Men: The Hidden Side of Rape, Stalking, Harassment, and Sexual Assault”  it

illuminates the long-overlooked subject of adult female against adult male sex crimes. Combining personal accounts, information on criminal cases, relevant research on adult female against adult male sexual offenses, and statistical data from the FBI and other government sources, the authors comprehensively document how some women can be aggressive sexual predators, just like their male counterparts; highlight the changes in the criminal behavior of women; and provide fascinating stories of true crime as well as shocking revelations about human behavior.

When we want to bring awareness to sexual assault/abuse is it ok to say thing like “Boys will be Boys will be held accountable for their actions” as to lump up every single male in the world to be a sexual predator. Generalization like that is stereotyping, something women refuse to have done to them, so should it be done to men?
I won’t disagree that most sexual crimes are committed by men, yet I can’t agree that we should just focus on making men the Villians of Sexual Assault/Abuse alone. Can we agree that maybe the amount of Women sexual predator could also be under-reported? Resulting in the view of men being the only predators.

Me too & Men Too- Accountability

Most certainly the Celebrity men that have assaulted all of those women and any other man that has assaulted any other woman should be her accountable. I support the advocating and awareness that is being brought forth to stop such heinous crimes.

The intent is that we also include those men that have also been victims they deserve a voice to #mentoo. Neither gender should live in secrecy, shame, fear, and hurt. It is a human issue not just a women’s issue.

As for me, today I am here to say #metoo for both my mother and my husband! They are both equally entitled to voice the truth about their victimization and consequent victory.



Our work is guided by the vision of a world free from child sexual abuse, where children can grow up happy, healthy and safe.
We know that prevention is possible, and we believe that it is an adult responsibility to protect children.

This has enabled MaleSurvivor to create resources and partnerships unparalleled in their ability to provide life-changing support to survivors and their loved ones.

For Women

Shelaine and Derek Maxfield felt compelled to put their passion and financial backing into a charitable organization that would help adult women who suffered childhood sexual abuse. Born out of their compassion and the efforts of many others, The Younique Foundation, a 501(c)(3) public charity was organized in December of 2014.

WOAR is a non-profit organization in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania whose mission is to eliminate all forms of sexual violence through specialized treatment services, comprehensive prevention education programs, and advocacy for the rights of victims of sexual assault.


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Work Cited


Dao, James. “In Debate Over Military Sexual Assault, Men Are Overlooked Victims.” New York Times, 24 June 2013, p. A12(L). Academic OneFile, Accessed 18 Oct. 2017.

Cook, Philip W, and Tammy L. Hodo. When Women Sexually Abuse Men: The Hidden Side of Rape, Stalking, Harassment, and Sexual Assault. 2013.

HODGE, SAMANTHA, and DAVID CANTER. “Victims and Perpetrators of Male Sexual Assault.” Journal of Interpersonal Violence, vol. 13, no. 2, 1998, pp. 222-239.

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3 thoughts on “Me Too: It’s Not Just Women, #Mentoo

  1. YES YES YES! I love how this whole movement has woken people up in a big way to all the women and men that have been suffering in silence and how their voices have been met with community and support for maybe the first time ever! (Love the little cross stitch you include at the bottom too!)

  2. Just a note here. The number of UNREPORTED MALE ABUSE cases is probably double what we know. Just like men who are beaten and physically abused by WOMEN is at around 45% in this country. That is part of #metoo. I am not into victim blaming but too many women go into a situation knowing what could happen. Hollywood is NO exception, it is a know cesspool, yet for fame and fortune many women and men go to the slaughter knowingly. Accountability for your action sis the rule of the day and that damn well applies to women as well. Or are we telling the world that in 2018 we actually are living like we are in 1618AD?

  3. Last thoughts. I see the whole coy/ doe eyed adult women who still use the promise of sex to get their bosses to favor them. Yet I thought that is what Women’s Liberation of almost 50 years ago fought against. I have talked to too many men in my 60 years that have been grouped, propositioned, and worse by WOMEN in POWER!!!! A woman who knowingly gets drunk at a party and has her sights set on BIFF the jock, but wakes up next to ELMER the NERD, was that rape or a bad choice? If she regrets it is ELMER now a RAPIST. See that nonsense happen to too many decent men. SO until I see more about women also being accountable and responsible for THEIR ACTIONS, I stil remain somewhat skeptical about #METOO in the 21st century!

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