“Me Too, Movement”- #Mentoo
On October 15, 2017, Alyssa Milano shared a tweet regarding sexual assault/abuse on women, as a response to the Harvey Weinstein controversy. Her request was simple that her followers tweet #metoo with their personal stories of sexual assault/abuse as to garner the magnitude of the problem consequently raising awareness.
I am not here to tell you about my #metoo story. I stand by and with every single woman that has had to endure sexual abuse/assault in their lives. I want them to know that you don’t have to live in shame any longer, you are worthy and beautiful, your testimony will only help others. You’re all Victors Not Victims!
Now what I want to say is that sexual assault/abuse or sexual crimes are not gender specific. It does not just happen to women, and it does not only happen to men. It happens to all humans at every stage and age in life.
It’s A Humanity Issue,
If women sexual assault is under-reported can you imagine men’s rates of sexual abuse that goes under-reported as well? Men have the world always telling them they need to be strong, courageous, and victimless. Let me be clear I am not advocating Men that are Predators, I am speaking about boys, young men, and grown men that are sexually assaulted/abused.
In an article in the New York Times called, In Debate Over Military Sexual Assault, Men Are Overlooked Victims, it stated that:
“In its latest report on sexual assault, the Pentagon estimated that 26,000 service members experienced unwanted sexual contact in 2012, up from 19,000 in 2010. Of those cases, the Pentagon says, 53 percent involved attacks on men, mostly by other men.”
In another study done called Victims and perpetrators of male sexual assault, It reports the following :
“Male rape is clearly one of the easiest crimes to get away with in this country at the moment. The likelihood of being convicted is remote in the extreme.” (Commander Tom Williamson, Metropolitan Police UK [Verbal media quote], March 1995)
“Unfortunately, the prior lack of attention to male sexual assault crimes outside prison walls, coupled with problems of underreporting, have created a gap in the literature on statistics measuring the extent of this phenomena. Groth and Burgess (1980) suggest that, because of the scarcity of data on the victims of these crimes and a “combination of cultural, social, legal and psychological issues,” male sexual assault is one of “the most underaddressed issues in our society” (p. 810).
Asking only women to stand up and share their story, can minimize those men’s pain and shame, who have also endured the same types of sexual assault/abuse. Men also share in the shame of being sexually assaulted, also, they keep it a secret for fear that they won’t be seen as the men the world expects them to be.
For both men and women living in that kind of secrecy can lead to many longer-term emotional and relational issues. The #metoo movement should include all sexual assault/abuse Victors regardless of the gender #mentoo!
A Sexual predator is not an explicit gendered either; it is not just men that commit sexual crimes it can also be women. In recent years many news articles have come regarding Females that have prayed on young victims, but sadly as a society, we refuse to believe that about women.
In the book “When Women Sexually Abuse Men: The Hidden Side of Rape, Stalking, Harassment, and Sexual Assault” it
illuminates the long-overlooked subject of adult female against adult male sex crimes. Combining personal accounts, information on criminal cases, relevant research on adult female against adult male sexual offenses, and statistical data from the FBI and other government sources, the authors comprehensively document how some women can be aggressive sexual predators, just like their male counterparts; highlight the changes in the criminal behavior of women; and provide fascinating stories of true crime as well as shocking revelations about human behavior.
When we want to bring awareness to sexual assault/abuse is it ok to say thing like “Boys will be
Boys will be held accountable for their actions” as to lump up every single male in the world to be a sexual predator. Generalization like that is stereotyping, something women refuse to have done to them, so should it be done to men?
I won’t disagree that most sexual crimes are committed by men, yet I can’t agree that we should just focus on making men the Villians of Sexual Assault/Abuse alone. Can we agree that maybe the amount of Women sexual predator could also be under-reported? Resulting in the view of men being the only predators.
Me too & Men Too- Accountability
Most certainly the Celebrity men that have assaulted all of those women and any other man that has assaulted any other woman should be her accountable. I support the advocating and awareness that is being brought forth to stop such heinous crimes.
The intent is that we also include those men that have also been victims they deserve a voice to #mentoo. Neither gender should live in secrecy, shame, fear, and hurt. It is a human issue not just a women’s issue.
As for me, today I am here to say #metoo for both my mother and my husband! They are both equally entitled to voice the truth about their victimization and consequent victory.
FOR MEN WHOSE LIVES HAVE BEEN DISRUPTED BY UNWANTED OR ABUSIVE SEXUAL EXPERIENCES, WORKING THROUGH IT CAN HELP TURN THINGS AROUND.
Our work is guided by the vision of a world free from child sexual abuse, where children can grow up happy, healthy and safe.
We know that prevention is possible, and we believe that it is an adult responsibility to protect children.
WOAR is a non-profit organization in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania whose mission is to eliminate all forms of sexual violence through specialized treatment services, comprehensive prevention education programs, and advocacy for the rights of victims of sexual assault.
Dao, James. “In Debate Over Military Sexual Assault, Men Are Overlooked Victims.” New York Times, 24 June 2013, p. A12(L). Academic OneFile, go.galegroup.com.db29.linccweb.org/ps/i.do?p=AONE&sw=w&u=lincclin_ccla&v=2.1&it=r&id=GALE%7CA334783966&asid=23747e23f4a7e6a767836d89c6b2758c. Accessed 18 Oct. 2017.
Cook, Philip W, and Tammy L. Hodo. When Women Sexually Abuse Men: The Hidden Side of Rape, Stalking, Harassment, and Sexual Assault. 2013.
HODGE, SAMANTHA, and DAVID CANTER. “Victims and Perpetrators of Male Sexual Assault.” Journal of Interpersonal Violence, vol. 13, no. 2, 1998, pp. 222-239.